Going Down

Dear Tatriena ,

I am a young adult who have just started experimenting with sex. I am a Jamaican native and I grew up in the countryside, so things are indeed very relaxed and laid back. However, I ventured out of the rural area into the town where things are a lot more upbeat and crazy. I had classmates in high school that were experimenting from a very early age. Some of them have children, tongue rings, I have heard stories of threesome and encounters with the same-sex, orgies you name it. The thing is I am form a very humble beginning and my significant other on the other hand is the opposite. He thinks we should get involve in oral sex. He says he has had it before – several; times and enjoys it. I , on the other hand detest the idea. He refuses to go down on women. My love for him is great and I feel like doing anything for him. He says if I do it,he  would return a favour.

In Love, Kingston, JA.

Dear In Love,

First of all let me commend you on securing a significant other that loves you as equally as you love him, most females find that hard to come by. Secondly, I am gonna say that relationships are all about compromises . Sometimes you have to add and subtract. In me saying that , the reality is that most people find their attraction to the significant other naturally inclining– though when you do get to know the person more, there is often the realisation that person has an extremely annoying habit that is hard to accept. In some cases the reciprocal applies where the other person is lacking something that would make the relationship worthwhile. In saying so, this is what applies to your relationship.
Your boyfriend thinks that including oral sex will take the relationship to a higher level. The fact that he is willing to indulge as much as you would say something about him. It defers that the relationship also means alot to him. In saying so, because oral sex is somewhat out of the norm for you evidently there will be hesitations. It is natural to feed on these hesitations. It is a drastic choice to make especially when you are from the background in which you state you are from. The point is oral sex can be a tricky thing, especially if one party is suspected of promiscuity. It is best to do as much research as you possibly can and then decide if it is something you wanna do. There has been stories of where it is linked with some cancers and infections that could go unnoticed. It is best to sit and do further research with your medical doctor know what consequences are attached to the act and figure out if it is something you are willing to live up to.



August 12, 2012. Sex, Taboo. 1 comment.