Could Age be Just a Number?

Could Age be Just a Number?.


November 15, 2012. Tags: , , . Taboo. Leave a comment.

Could Age be Just a Number?

One of the current trends in today’s society is the increasing popularity of dating a partner that is old enough to be your own parent. Men do it, females do and yes having a “Sugar Daddy” or a “Cougar” also has its benefits. There are arguments around whether or not it is right there are most definitely stipulations of dating someone who could be your actual dad. Now everyone knows that one girl from high school that dates only older men. This is a conversation I have had with friends over coffee or chat. I have argued relentlessly with other people saying individuals are allowed to be just that-individuals. Yes there are people who would question my values and personal beliefs, why is it that I am so accepting with what I expect of other people and their choices. Then again that is the point, after all,the choice is theirs to make.

The whole point is why is it that a male dating an older woman is seen as a stud and being a glorious pedestal of make ego? He gains the respect of his peers both males and females.He is seen glorious and having had a game so amazing every one else wants to be like him. Assuming for the most part this is reference to adults consenting to a mature and sexual relationships, or in most case consenting teenagers in a sexual relationship. When examined from popular psychoanalytic theories it is probably every teen boy’s dream to be a “teacher’s pet” Then again who are we to argue anything different from hormone booming teenage girls.

Females on the other hand are more seemingly judged as being mentally deranged when prompt to having a male partner older enough to be her father. The stares and restless unreasonable is eventually an after effect for young women who participate in these relationships. I’ve asked male friends, I have asked female friends and for the most part it is just seen as a sketchy looking situation. And, yes in return the question I propose is, why is it male dating an older woman seen as more socially acceptable that females dating a guy in the same age range. It is the stipulation. Men would always love their mother but,hey if he wanna be with another kid’s mother;well damn,he most definitely have game! Females on the other hand should by no level of sexist denotation should incline oneself to a sexual relationship with her dad!

Of course there are beneficent of dating an older person. Your Momma or Daddy would be more established (Or at least they should).Hopefully,they would be more emotionally experienced and more definitely they are a form of financial support. I know personally some girls and guys who choose to go for older people because of what the other person can do for them. The feeling of an emotional security from a relationship stand-point is something these individuals look towards. The harsh reality is young adults aren’t always emotionally stable, or even for the most part lack emotional intelligence to in order to conceptualize sensitivity on our peers’ part. There are varying reasons for why people choose the relationships that they pursue. Throughout the years if there is anything that I have learnt best it is that you simply cannot judge a book by its cover. A lot of people have “parental issues” or have been molested and they within themselves find varying alternative to come to term with their past. Some of which they had to exempt and forcefully find themselves taking the role of adulthood from yet a very early age. So the question lies within itself, “Could age honestly just be a number?”

November 14, 2012. Tags: , , . Taboo. 8 comments.

Going Down

Dear Tatriena ,

I am a young adult who have just started experimenting with sex. I am a Jamaican native and I grew up in the countryside, so things are indeed very relaxed and laid back. However, I ventured out of the rural area into the town where things are a lot more upbeat and crazy. I had classmates in high school that were experimenting from a very early age. Some of them have children, tongue rings, I have heard stories of threesome and encounters with the same-sex, orgies you name it. The thing is I am form a very humble beginning and my significant other on the other hand is the opposite. He thinks we should get involve in oral sex. He says he has had it before – several; times and enjoys it. I , on the other hand detest the idea. He refuses to go down on women. My love for him is great and I feel like doing anything for him. He says if I do it,he  would return a favour.

In Love, Kingston, JA.

Dear In Love,

First of all let me commend you on securing a significant other that loves you as equally as you love him, most females find that hard to come by. Secondly, I am gonna say that relationships are all about compromises . Sometimes you have to add and subtract. In me saying that , the reality is that most people find their attraction to the significant other naturally inclining– though when you do get to know the person more, there is often the realisation that person has an extremely annoying habit that is hard to accept. In some cases the reciprocal applies where the other person is lacking something that would make the relationship worthwhile. In saying so, this is what applies to your relationship.
Your boyfriend thinks that including oral sex will take the relationship to a higher level. The fact that he is willing to indulge as much as you would say something about him. It defers that the relationship also means alot to him. In saying so, because oral sex is somewhat out of the norm for you evidently there will be hesitations. It is natural to feed on these hesitations. It is a drastic choice to make especially when you are from the background in which you state you are from. The point is oral sex can be a tricky thing, especially if one party is suspected of promiscuity. It is best to do as much research as you possibly can and then decide if it is something you wanna do. There has been stories of where it is linked with some cancers and infections that could go unnoticed. It is best to sit and do further research with your medical doctor know what consequences are attached to the act and figure out if it is something you are willing to live up to.


August 12, 2012. Sex, Taboo. 1 comment.