Could Age be Just a Number?

One of the current trends in today’s society is the increasing popularity of dating a partner that is old enough to be your own parent. Men do it, females do and yes having a “Sugar Daddy” or a “Cougar” also has its benefits. There are arguments around whether or not it is right there are most definitely stipulations of dating someone who could be your actual dad. Now everyone knows that one girl from high school that dates only older men. This is a conversation I have had with friends over coffee or chat. I have argued relentlessly with other people saying individuals are allowed to be just that-individuals. Yes there are people who would question my values and personal beliefs, why is it that I am so accepting with what I expect of other people and their choices. Then again that is the point, after all,the choice is theirs to make.

The whole point is why is it that a male dating an older woman is seen as a stud and being a glorious pedestal of make ego? He gains the respect of his peers both males and females.He is seen glorious and having had a game so amazing every one else wants to be like him. Assuming for the most part this is reference to adults consenting to a mature and sexual relationships, or in most case consenting teenagers in a sexual relationship. When examined from popular psychoanalytic theories it is probably every teen boy’s dream to be a “teacher’s pet” Then again who are we to argue anything different from hormone booming teenage girls.

Females on the other hand are more seemingly judged as being mentally deranged when prompt to having a male partner older enough to be her father. The stares and restless unreasonable is eventually an after effect for young women who participate in these relationships. I’ve asked male friends, I have asked female friends and for the most part it is just seen as a sketchy looking situation. And, yes in return the question I propose is, why is it male dating an older woman seen as more socially acceptable that females dating a guy in the same age range. It is the stipulation. Men would always love their mother but,hey if he wanna be with another kid’s mother;well damn,he most definitely have game! Females on the other hand should by no level of sexist denotation should incline oneself to a sexual relationship with her dad!

Of course there are beneficent of dating an older person. Your Momma or Daddy would be more established (Or at least they should).Hopefully,they would be more emotionally experienced and more definitely they are a form of financial support. I know personally some girls and guys who choose to go for older people because of what the other person can do for them. The feeling of an emotional security from a relationship stand-point is something these individuals look towards. The harsh reality is young adults aren’t always emotionally stable, or even for the most part lack emotional intelligence to in order to conceptualize sensitivity on our peers’ part. There are varying reasons for why people choose the relationships that they pursue. Throughout the years if there is anything that I have learnt best it is that you simply cannot judge a book by its cover. A lot of people have “parental issues” or have been molested and they within themselves find varying alternative to come to term with their past. Some of which they had to exempt and forcefully find themselves taking the role of adulthood from yet a very early age. So the question lies within itself, “Could age honestly just be a number?”

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November 14, 2012. Tags: , , . Taboo. 8 comments.